How to live in the present
As you are reading this, you are fully engaging in the present. The present is all we have, it is the only thing that has ever been and will ever be. Scary really. The past and future don't truly exist. The past is memories and moments we have stored in our mind - the only reason we even do this is is for survival. The future is something we cannot grasp or predict, however, is it something we can help create and improve. Being completely present is extremely hard in this day and age. Distractions are everywhere. How many times have you thought about other things whilst reading this paragraph? Have you wondered what you’re having for dinner tonight? I bet you have now! Distractions pull us out of being present, causing emotions and negative thoughts to drift right in and latch on to us until we submit to them.
But we do have a choice. We have a choice every single time we decide on something. Becoming present and living presently is becoming aware. Aware of ourselves, our environment, our actions and our thoughts. The present is the state of action. What will you do in the present? Will you allow life to drown your voice or will you rise to the occasion and shout as loud as you can? As I said, it's your choice.
With all that’s going on, staying present is a constant practice. We are distracted every single second of the day, by our screens, our thoughts, our emotions and the never-ending beautiful chaos of life. Even in the darkest of times, being present and focusing on only what is can be a powerful tool.
The moment you feel a slight slip in emotions or your mind has taken you somewhere far far away which you wish to return from, shift to becoming present.
Become aware of the fact that you are not living in the present - this might be a case where you feel your mind is constantly trapped in its own reality or emotionally you cannot escape from your thoughts.
The first thing you need to do is bring yourself back to the present moment by focusing on your breathing. Follow your breath, 1, 2, 1, 2...count along with the ins and outs.
Once you feel under control and have succeeded in reigning in all other thoughts and emotions, look around you. Where are you at this moment? What are you doing? Look at your hands, your arms, your environment. This is where you are. You are safe.
Repeat to yourself, I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I have learnt that being able to reaffirm that I am in a safe environment helps ground me. Brings me back to my own reality.
Finish on a positive and enlightening affirmation, tell yourself you’ve managed to pull yourself out of your mind’s reality and into the present moment. You are safe, strong and living in the now.
Live in the now.